Friday, March 19, 2010

apprehension

We have been fortunate enough to make some new friends recently. They are fellow parents at daycare of a boy in Geekyboy's class. We've socialized a few times with the kids, and had a very nice time, but this weekend we're taking our relationship one step further. They are coming to stay with us for the weekend at our place in Tahoe.

I'm nervous. It is a big commitment spending the whole weekend with people, especially people you don't know all that well. There is a lot of conversation to be had. Lots of potential for awkwardness. Lots of dishes to wash.

I spent money we can't really afford on a new coverlet and matching throw pillow for the guest bed. I've been to their house you see, and it is rather well appointed, whereas our Tahoe place, though it has many charms,  is furnished mainly with tatty things the previous owners left behind.

I packed nice clothes for myself, though usually I spend the weekend in my sweatpants or my ski undies. Quite often we don't even find time to shower, so I'd better squeeze one of those in this weekend if I can.

I recycled the 50 old copies of Star and Us magazine I have laying about and replaced them with "the Economist" and "Scientific American" (we do actually subscribe to those magazines, I didn't buy them specially!)

And I'm crossing my fingers and hoping that the children behave well all weekend. I know that these friends are not coming to judge my parenting, but who doesn't feel a little under the microscope, dealing with the usual day to day drama that is to be expected with a four and two year old.

So, parenting gods, please smile on me this weekend.  I"m hoping that my kids don't fight with their little boy (an only child, unused to having to negotiate for playthings). Please don't let them bash him over the head with trains, toy saucepans or electronic games. I'm crossing my fingers that Geekygirl doesn't do one of her middle of the night fits of the screaming ab dabs about pyjamas or pull ups and wake the entire house. I'm really counting on neither of the children biting me in front of our friends. And please, please, please, even if all of this does come to pass, please don't let Geekygirl call their little boy, who is in that rapid "hear it once and repeat it forever" phase of language learning right now, a "penis head".

It will be fun, right?!

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It's going to be great. They are going to be more laidback and fun than you expect. They'll pitch in with the cooking and the washing up. The kids won't fight much, and when they do, they'll quickly resolve it with a few well placed mommy warnings. You are going to have a great weekend. Enjoy.
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You are so right, it was fun. (Would love to have you guys come for a ski weekend, the boys would just love it. Come next year and Rosa can show them how its done!)
Good luck, although I think you should have left all the olf stuff!
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Thanks! We were able to relax be ourselves after all, so a good time was had.
Sounds brilliant. i love the magazine comment. I'd do EXACTLY that (and I don't subscribe to the Economist, but certainly to the UK equivalents of Star and Us). You paint it like a scene from a national lampoons movie, SO looking forward to the outcome. Hope it all went brilliantly.
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It was great! Next time I'll leave out the trashy mags!
I would almost certainly have done the same, though theoretically you should probably have left everything more or less as it always is. Have to say I think you're very brave. I find it difficult enough inviting people round for a playdate, without inviting them away for the weekend. And you know, the dating analogy is really coming into play here. Have you known them a couple of months at least?

Anyway, I hope it's going really well, and Chris, the girls and I will be over next weekend. ;) (But maybe in a year or so._
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WE have known them for about 6 months, I'd say, so ready to take that next step! It is hard meeting people as you get older, I think, but worth the effort. Would love to have you guys visit too!
Look forward to hearing about it.
Yes, it will be great. Relax, bring lots of wine. Have a wonderful time. I love comig here and hearing abot your Tahoe trips, one can live vicariously, right?!
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Of course! It is a very special part of the world
, we do live our time there so very much.
Thanks all, we did indeed have a lovely weekend.
Your post cracked me up. I do so many of the same things and end up working myself up over nothing. When it comes time for the weekend I think most people with kids just want to be able to relax and chill out :)

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